How Good Feelings Lead to a Well Run Business

September 10, 2025•4 min read

Realigning My Direction

Lately I have been feeling into a shift in direction with my work. What is unfolding is something I am calling The Well Run, Good Feeling Business. It brings together my grounding in the inside out understanding known as the 3 Principles and my love of systems and tech. The change is unfolding and I am trusting my inner guidance as to what it will look like. I am staying deeply present and moving forward from a good feeling.

This week I want to talk about what I mean by the “good feeling” part.

The Trap of Focusing on What We Do Not Want

So often in life and business we focus on what we do not want.

I see that in myself all the time. Money worries. Questions about what my business should look like. Personal things going on.

The more I focus on what I do not want, the worse I feel in my body. From a 3 Principles perspective, that feeling is not a problem. It is simply my system showing me the state of my mind, not the state of my business or the world outside me.

An Honest Example

Last week I had a very strong reminder of this. I was looking at pricing for some work and when a number came up on my screen, I burst into tears.

In the past I would have taken that as a sign to back away, lower the number and not mention it to anyone.

This time was different. I let myself cry. I did not fight the feeling or try to squash it down. I saw it for what it was: a bunch of unhelpful thoughts passing through.

As I settled, two very clear actions came. The first was to check what others were charging. The second was to reach out to someone I trust for a conversation. Both reassured me I was on the right track.

That is the difference when we do not make our feelings wrong. When we let them move through, peace returns, and from there clarity shows up. From that good feeling, the next step is obvious.

The Compass of Clarity

So how do good feelings lead to a well run business?

It might not be obvious to consider that feelings are so important when we are navigating business decisions and going through the busyness of our day. Yet they really are. Your clarity and common sense are in a good feeling.

When you are not in a good feeling, you act from a discombobulated place. You push something out into the world from that unsettled state and later look back thinking it was not the best decision. It is easy to blame the outside world but in truth, clarity and common sense never arise from tension, they arise from peace.

From a 3 Principles perspective, feelings of tension and ease are your compass. When you pause and allow the uncomfortable feelings to pass, it is like the compass needle settles. Then you see the clear direction to go next.

The Power Pause

It is easy to confuse pausing with procrastination. Procrastination is avoiding something because it feels awful. Pausing is allowing the discomfort to pass before moving forward.

Most of us spend our days at a keyboard, so the power pause can be as simple as taking your hands off the keys, breathing, and allowing the feeling to move through. Then, once you are back in a good feeling, the next step becomes obvious.

When we are unsettled, we often think the answer is to get more systems in place. Another planner, another app or another tool. Yet the right system emerges when the mind is calm, not the other way around. The best systems and actions come from clarity, not from force.

Flow Instead of Hustle

When we are in a good feeling, there is excitement, joy, presence, and aliveness. Work feels like flow.

When we are not, it feels like playing whack a mole. Stressful, overwhelming, anxious. That does not have to be the way of business, even though the hustle mentality in the world tells us it should be.

From what we can see when we consider this via the 3 Principles, busyness is never the answer. A well run business is not achieved through endless force, but through acting from peace of mind.

A Good Feeling Business

That is what I mean by a good feeling business. It is not about chasing calm or pretending everything is fine. It is about being okay with whatever feeling is there, knowing it will move through, and waiting for clarity before taking action.

The well run part of business flows from that. When we act from a good feeling, the right systems, the right actions, and the right decisions naturally follow.

If you are ready to explore what this could look like in your own business, I would love to talk. You can book a clarity call with me and we can take it from there.

You deserve a well-run, good-feeling business because busyness has never been the answer.

Clare Downham

Clare is passionate about empowering high-achieving Gen X women to break free from stress, overthinking, and perfectionism. Through her transformational courses, group programs, and bespoke 1:1 coaching, she guides women on a journey toward emotional resilience, inner alignment, and authentic connection. Her unique "Thriving Woman" approach helps women shift from feeling overwhelmed and disconnected to living with clarity, balance, and self-worth. Participants learn to release self-doubt, embrace imperfections, and reconnect with their true values. They go from striving for external validation to confidently making decisions aligned with their deepest purpose. Women who work with Clare experience real, lasting changes—they feel more grounded and calmer, confidently set boundaries, and navigate life’s challenges with grace. They stop overthinking and gain mental clarity, creating space for meaningful relationships and self-care. Her clients find themselves thriving in both their personal and professional lives, no longer driven by perfectionism but by a sense of inner peace and authentic self-expression. Imagine living a life where you lead with confidence, maintain emotional balance, and embrace your worth without hesitation. This is what is possible with the Thriving Woman Approach.

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